Their Wedding Rings:
a symbol and a promise of commitment and fidelity
I looked at the rings on their fingers, year after year. The fingers, once young and taut, aged and became thin, as did the gold bands. The wedding bands wore through and were replaced in time. The diamond ring is the original piece of the set, and its underside is nearly gone. And why wouldn’t it be? Sixty-six years ~ ~ as a symbol and a promise ~ ~ of commitment and fidelity.
Daddy and Mom are gone now. It’s been a year. And I miss them. So, on occasion, I hold those rings in the palm of my hand and visualize their hands that aged through the years, wishing I could hold them again. Mom’s rings will go to my sister, Becky, but I’ve been “delaying” that step for awhile! Until then, I occasionally slide Mom’s rings on my finger, especially when I want to feel her presence and want to be reminded of how she prayed for me and my family.
Last fall, I wore the rings on the day of Amber’s sentencing, a very difficult day for me. On that day, I was so glad that Mom wasn’t there (to see and feel our pain) but so glad that her rings were! And on that day, the rings, once a symbol and a promise in the marriage became their symbol and promise of commitment and fidelity to us, the family resulting from the marriage.
And I wore the rings recently, along with my birthstone, on my omega necklace. I clasped the chain, then held Daddy’s and Mom’s rings in my fingers, remembering their faithful prayers for me and my family – prayers that are still held in a jar before the Lord God, prayers that still today speak to God in behalf of me and my family. I thank God for those prayers and head out the door for Mott’s Children’s Hospital at U of M in Ann Arbor, where our baby grandson will undergo open-heart surgery today.
The rings surround me on each side, encompassing me with Daddy’s and Mom’s commitment and fidelity to me and to my children and to my children’s children, including Baby Luke. But on these trying days of Baby Luke’s surgery and recovery, the rings now symbolize even more. Now, the rings are reminders of their commitment and fidelity to the Lord Jesus, which is the heritage they have passed on to us, their children, and to our children, and to our children’s children.
That heritage, in turn, reveals the greatest promise of commitment and fidelity – that of the Lord Jesus to me, and to my children, and to their children . . . “I will never leave you or forsake you,” He says. And I have found that promise to be true.
So I will wear those rings again this Tuesday, to celebrate the birth of our new grandson to our Matt and his beautiful wife, Lynette. The rings will connect us, back in time, to the tremendous joy Daddy and Mom experienced at the birth of their first grandchild, Matt. And as we all praise and thank God for this new gift of life in our family, I’ll wrap my fingers around those rings and whisper, “Thank you, Daddy and Mom, for your example of commitment and fidelity – to each other – to us, your family – and to the Lord Jesus.