A House Where She Belongs

Daddy passed away first and Mama followed him just one month later. I’ve written about it before, and I’m sure I’ll write about it again. But today, I write about something they left behind – the “big yellow house,” I call it  – the “big yellow house” where they lived together 60 years.

They’d been married just a few years, when they bought the house and the property – 80 acres – some farmland, some woodland. And in this house and on this property, they raised a family and created a heritage that lasted not only through their lifetimes but one that continues today.

They planted thousands of pine trees on bare, unused pastures. Along the creek bordering the south line of the property, Daddy created a beautiful picnic area, where he and Mom hosted family reunions and Sunday School picnics. Church softball teams played in one of the two ball fields. Twenty foot posts connected by tightly woven wire farmyard fence stood tall and firm behind home base, creating the back stop.

Mom on Gypsy
Mom on Gypsy

Our main barn was huge with two large haylofts, cow stanchions, horse stalls, grain bins, and equipment rooms. We kids swung on a rope as thick as a softball bat – from the north to the south loft – and back and forth through the east and west barn doorways. Other farm buildings completed this pastoral setting: a smaller barn, chicken coops, a corn crib, a granary, and a shed, housing an electric pump, which supplied fresh water to our horses, Jack, Gypsy, and Smokie,  and to my brother’s dairy cow, Daisy. It was as Norman Rockwell as any Midwestern farm could be, and it belonged to Margie and Wayne, my parents.

The heart of this ideal ambience was the house – a big yellow house – and although we all loved it, my mother seemed to love it the most. Next to her Lord, her husband, and her family, the house was her everything! She needed nothing else to be content than to be in her home – the big yellow house. And it fully satisfied her from the fall of 1952, when they moved in, until her last day.

waligora favicon2During those first years, few improvements were made to the house, but it was personally and tastefully decorated on a very limited budget: simple, sylvan printed curtains with sewn on rings; chair cushions, stuffed with worn towels; and fresh flowers from the garden in the summer, pussy willow in March, and evergreens in the winter.

We “lived” in every room of the house. One of the big upstairs bedrooms belonged to me! But in the cold winter months, Mom and Dad set up our beds in the dining room on the cozy main floor, as the upstairs was hard to heat. One large register brought heat from the enormous wood furnace in the basement into the house. Insulation and storm windows came years later.

During my childhood diseases, my mother tucked me into a “bed” made up on big wine-colored frieze chair and matching ottoman – close to her opened bedroom door.

She was very spontaneous, and she improvised as needed – or at whim!

One day, I came home and found that she had cut the top part of the footboard off her bed. I didn’t even know she could use a chainsaw!

She cooked on electric stoves but yearned for a cookstove to be put in the back “woodshed,” an unheated, unfinished part of the house. A “summer kitchen,” she called it. She also would have loved an open stairway. She never got either of those things, but it didn’t matter much to her. She loved her house unconditionally and was most content there.

As  the years passed and Mom worked more outside her home, adding to Daddy’s income, physical improvements were made to the house: storm windows, insulation, aqua-colored carpet from Sears & Roebuck, a remodeled kitchen with maple cabinets, and a large window by the dining room table.

And as the house aged, so did Mom.

Near the end of her days in the house, she sat at the dining room table, looking out the window – down to the old ball fields, picnic area, and the creek. She spoke as she had spoken years before: of love for her “big yellow house” and of the contentment she found within it.waligora-logo2Before Mom was buried in the country cemetery across the road, we placed her in a beautiful white hearse and covered her with flowers – flowers like those found in her garden and yards. And on that cold April day, she journeyed the circular drive one last time – near the spirea bush, beside the old maple tree that had died along with her, alongside the kitchen door she had entered so many times, and past the lilac bushes, just beginning to bud. I imagined hearing her say “goodbye” to that “big yellow house” and stepping into a perfect one the Lord had prepared for her.

As much as she loved the big old yellow house, I don’t think she misses it now because, you see, I’m sure God gave her a new one in heaven. It has the open stairway she always wanted — and a summer kitchen with the green and cream-colored cook stove. And once again, Daddy shares that yellow house with her!

I’ve been sorting through Mom’s “pieces” – her writing, her notes, and her quips – and I came upon a little piece she had clipped out of a magazine one day, long ago. I’ve researched it. The words seem to be anonymous, yet they are my mother’s words:

“There’s a house whose rooms I know by heart.

where I tended the garden and read my books.

where dreams were dreamt and memories made.

where children grew up and I grew old.

There’s a house where life was lived.

A house where I belong.”

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Mom personalized the piece by placing a photo of her “yellow house” over the house pictured in the article.

I love the yellow house. I know its rooms by heart. I dreamed in the house and read my books there. But my children didn’t grow up there, nor did I grow old there.

But someone will again raise her children in that house, and that woman will grow old there. She will never “see” it, but a blessing of heritage will permeate its walls, the presence of the Holy Spirit will indwell its rooms and will touch the woman’s soul. Yes, someone will live out her life there. And it will be a house where she belongs.

Yellow House in the Fall

 

 

8 Replies to “A House Where She Belongs”

  1. That was very nice to read. It always amazed me how my parents lived with the imperfections of a home well lived in by 4 children. My mom got new carpet one year. My dad accidentally walked through some tar and not realizing walked into the house tracking each step. The carpet was one day old. It was cleaned and lasted several years. My siblings and I still own my parents old home. In the garage are many items that were there when we grew up. There are some wonderful days now when we are all in the garage. It doesn’t take long and we are laughing hysterically at a near perfect childhood. I enjoyed reading about the yellow house. A pleasant tear.

  2. Kathy, this post was so heartfelt. It almost seemed as if I experienced it along with you. Thank you for sharing your Mom with us.

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